What I learned in 2010; The Year that Was.

I am thankful for having been through such a wide array of experiences and emotions, all culminating with the man sitting here today writing this. I’ve come to not only know who I am on a deeper level, but I’ve also become more grounded in that person.

Some things I learned, some I relearned, some were reaffirmed. Here’s the list.

Wherever you go, there you are, so lead, never follow.

You can’t change a person’s nature.

You don’t know someone until you’ve seen their bad side.

I’m great at building businesses, okay at best when it comes to running them.

I care about money much less than I thought, but I am more committed than ever to accumulating it.

You have no idea what is going to happen, you will always be surprised at where you are.

Whether you are at your highest or your lowest, you never know it at the time.

Don’t count on anyone but your closest family.

I’m really proud of myself for the courage I’ve shown.

I have no interest in accumulating more than will fit inside a Range Rover. Give me my books, a laptop, a couple good pieces of art, a blackberry, my keepsakes and some clothes. Goodbye.

I should stop spending thousands furnishing new places, because I seem to suffer from bouts of wanderlust.

I need my alone time.

Never, ever – get back together with someone who doesn’t give a fuck about you. But, finally knowing you are better than that provides a level of closure that almost makes it worth it.

Don’t get her name tattooed on you. For fuck’s sake.

Laugh at everything. Laugh now, laugh then, laugh in bed, laugh all the way to the bank.

My life is a combination of Vanilla Sky and the Count of Monte Cristo.

When it comes to the company you keep, take a look at their motives.

I never forget a transgression. It’s really hard for me ever to forgive them at times.

My happiest times are when I am doing the things I want to do, for me.

My family means way more to me than I knew.

I crave routine.

I’ll never settle or sleep good until I’ve done it.

Face the fact of life that people are in it for themselves and their family, so unless you are a part of that group or are going to be, we are still cave people who are capable of doing terrible things to others. Some people are going to do whatever it takes to get their version of happy.

Build you own family and provide for them. Make your place in the world.


Never enter into a business partnership unless they are writing you checks for beaucoup money.

Attorney’s will rape you.

Do everything you can that makes you happy. Live in that place, live those activities. Be the change.

….etc etc

Things That Bring Me Joy

I’m writing this as a reminder to spend 2011 doing them.


Working out
Eating Well
Reading the Paper (WSJ)
Having People for Dinner
Listening To Music
Generosity + Gifting
Goal-Setting & Planning
Having Coffee
Building Businesses
Fine Dining
Shopping (evolving my style, while keeping it classic)
Getting Haircuts + Spa
Shopping for my home
Making Money
Sports Cars
Being on the water
Driving + Listening to Music
Shopping at Natural Health Food Stores
Taking Vitamins + Supplements
Being Proud of Myself
Going to Concerts
Building upon my Faith + Spirituality
Drinking Smoothies
Eating Outside
Going New Places
Doing New Things
Helping Others
Reading Magazines
Coastal Living
Weekend + Day Trips
Surf Fishing
Mani – Pedis
Wearing Shorts
Going to Sports Games + Watching them with the people I care about
Being Mentored + Being a Mentor
Living My Credo
Not Compromising nor Settling
Doing things for my family and friends
Being Larger > Life
Discovering New Music
Designing My Life
Making Love
Loving The Person I am
Mastering Humility
Discovering New Passions
Knowing Myself and Being True to My Self, Authentic
Buying Books, Being at the bookstore
That’s it for now.

Things I am Passionate About

{unordered list}

Luxury Living and “” Goods



Generosity of spirit (teaching others and sharing my energy, beliefs and passions)

Luxury and exotics (namely Porsche)



Haute Cuisine and California Coastal “”

Style & Fashion

Living Well

Business & Entrepreneurship

Reading & Learning

Authenticity (being myself, and cultivating myself)

Legacy (the pedigree I create for my family)

Emotions (love, happiness, empathy, joy)

Taking care of myself (health, nutrition, skin care, fitness)

Aesthetics, design and decor

Designing my life and materializing my goals

Self Evolution and Growth



– That’s it for now.


Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley, written in 1875 from his hospital bed.

It’s Not Mothers Day, but Hey Momma.

I’m far away from my mom and I miss her. I really do have the most amazing mom. No one will know the things she has done for me or the patience she always had with me. Or the countless times I showed up unannounced at her door and she gave me the best hug in the world, cooked me a meal and just listened to me.

Sometimes I didn’t always like the advice she gave me or her style of parenting, but I see now it was her way of treating me like a man and setting expectations for me.

Don’t get me wrong, the other 99% of advice and parenting style I loved. My mom taught me that I was special and how to be strong, no matter what. She taught me how to really appreciate things.

I know I didn’t always make a point to spend enough real time with you or say a proper goodbye, but know I regret doing so and I admire you all the more for not holding it against me. I couldn’t have asked for a more loving, kind, fun and supportive mom.

I know I can’t live far away from you for too long, because I miss you too much.

You’re an amazing woman mom. I love you. Thanks for making me, me. You’ve always been my best friend.